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“Change the change” through friendly emotions

Many people respond to change processes in companies or in their personal lives by looking at data, facts or lists of pros and cons. To make the change process successful, it is also important to coach people’s emotions to enable them to face their new future on a stable footing. The wingwave coaching method can help to establish the best possible emotional balance for change processes in line with the motto “change the change”, and this fast-acting coaching can contribute towards successful or satisfying change processes, not only with regard to stress management but also by increasing enthusiasm, confidence and decisiveness.

One example is the phenomenon of the well-known “change puzzle”. Here we are dealing with positive, pleasing goals in life – there seems to be nothing to stop you turning them into reality but people still fail to accomplish the job: a modernisation, a new way of behaving, a decision. Successful coaching here takes account of the special structure of the adult brain: even neurons which are far apart are now extensively “hard wired” and nerve pathways have established good insulation which has increased the transmission of stimuli nearly a hundredfold by comparison with a child’s brain (Spitzer M. , Wie Erwachsene denken und lernen, 2012 als Audiobook/ Spitzer M., How Adults Think and Learn, 2012 as audio book).

As a result, an adult’s brain becomes increasingly self-absorbed. New external stimuli are treated less as an opportunity to learn but rather to make associations as in: “I’ve seen that before!” or: “I know all that stuff!”

People always think new experiences could be something positive – and for children this may well be true as they are still curious. They experience novelty, the unexpected as a “positive tingle” as their brains crave new structures; they are still “under construction” – i.e. not yet in their completed mode. The “finished adult” on the other hand experiences the emotion of “surprise” increasingly as a nuisance, and this feeling of discomfort can be overcome by the specific coaching of emotions. Wingwave coaches help to bring about a state in which new experiences can have a stimulating, exciting effect on their subjects’ emotions and be seen as a positive challenge.

Body Change: even a small self-coaching exercise taking in bodily perception can help. Because the mental blockage in the change puzzle is in reality a blockage of our entire organism, and in this case the body “talks” because the brain naturally belongs to our body as an organ. To show this, just do a simple test: fold the fingers of your two hands together, including your thumbs – one of the two thumbs is now on top if you look at your interlaced hands. Now disentangle your hands and fold them again the other way around – so that the other thumb is now on top. Now listen to your feelings, what do they tell you? “Strange, funny, unusual”, is the frequent answer. We have no established brain cell links for this way of folding our hands, and we will not do it like that again because of the strange, unusual feeling of something different that it gives us; we will stick with the “ingrained” version. That is what the self-coaching exercise is based on: “body change”, carried out in combination with the wingwave music. The wingwave music relieves stress and relaxes, making you creative and open to new experiences – even for new ways of folding your hands.

  1. You simply listen to the wingwave music for two minutes. The music continues while you go through the next steps.
  2. You think about a sensible change which is imminent or which would be good for you – but somehow the flow of change is blocked.
  3. Now fold your hands “the wrong way round”, explore the strange physical sensation and continue to think about the change you wish to make.
  4. Concentrate on your feelings, and experience how the strange feeling in your hands gradually gives way to a physically friendly feeling, as the “new experience” is now accepted and the neural paths start to develop new connections.
  5. Now think about the subject of your change and see for yourself how your familiarity with the new experience of your hands gradually spreads to your overall thoughts and feelings.